Soul Inspiration – Speak Your Truth

Have you felt triggered by something you’ve read, something you’ve watched or perhaps by something someone said to you.

What I’ve found is when we are triggered by something, there’s a deeper underlying issue going on inside of us that we are not willing to see.

I was inspired to write a second blog this month because something I wrote triggered someone else and it got me thinking.

My mind went into overdrive and I began re-reading everything I’ve written in the last few months and what I realised is, with everything I have written, it’s always been my intention to empower and inspire.

However, some people may not see it like that and that’s ok. We all walk around with our rose coloured glasses on and see the world differently.

There’s always two sides to every story.

The story you share is your version and that is true to you.

One of the best books I’ve read is called ‘The Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz. I’ve referenced this book quiet a few times in my posts, videos and blogs. It’s such a great book.

The first agreement is Be impeccable with your word’. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

In the book it is written ‘The word is a force, it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think and thereby to create the events in your life’

Like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream or your word can destroy everything around you’

‘Depending how it is used, the word can set you free, or it can enslave you even more than you know’

‘All the magic you possess is based on your word. Your word is pure magic and misuse of your word is black magic’

You see, When I write, I am practicing being impeccable with my word. I write from a place of love and truth.

When you speak your truth there are going to be some people who are going to judge you and hate on you, and if you’re triggered or hating about something I’ve written or perhaps what someone else has written, I encourage you to look in the mirror and ask yourself ‘How is this me’

I warn you, this may be very confronting and you may not like what you hear but at least now you can begin to clear up your projection.

Then there will also be people who resonate with your story and will praise and love you for sharing.

If I can impact just one persons life from sharing my story, whether that be through my blog, a post, a video or face to face, that makes me so happy and it touches me right in my soul.

For far too long I hid my truth. I put on an act in front on my kids and in front of my clients. It’s now time to speak up.

No one was there when I was sitting on the kitchen floor after an argument, crying, with a knife to my stomach wanting to end it all.

No one was there when I was smothering my face in a pillow to stop the tears hoping they would stop forever.

No one was there when I was driving at 120km, at night from Sydney, wondering, if I just turn this wheel a little bit to the right I could it end all, who would even miss me.

I could go on with amount of times I wanted to escape. What kept me here is the love for my children, and the passion to help other women.

I don’t share my story for sympathy as I know there are far more people in the world in a far worse position than I was. I share my story to inspire and empower you. 

There’s someone who loves you, there’s someone who will miss you and only wants you to have the best out of life, the only person who needs to believe this, is yourself. And it took me along time to discover this.

Every event leading up to now has taught me something about myself or about life. I had to go through every thing that I went through so I could be here today to share my story.

What I’ve found is when you don’t speak your truth and express yourself you hang on to negative emotions like hate, anger or resentment (which I did for many years) and it only hurts you. You’re the only one that suffers!

“It’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”.

So I started doing the deep internal work on myself.

I chose Forgiveness. To forgive someone doesn’t mean you have to confront them face to face, it can be a meditation, ritual or ceremony you do that allows you to release the negative emotions toward that person and most importantly to yourself.

No one can make you feel a certain way, sure, people’s actions, words and behaviors can trigger emotions in you and you have the choice how to feel but no one makes you, that’s on you, a life lesson I learned along the way.

I don’t hate my ex-husband. He gave me 3 of the most precious gifts in the world and I will be forever grateful to him.

There will always be a place in my heart for the father of my children and the man who was my best teacher. Without experiencing what I did I wouldn’t be the woman I am today. Another great life lesson, a person is not their behaviour. Change the behaviour , change the person. First the person must recognise their behaviour for it to change.

“You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink”

I wish him all the best in the future and only hope he learns from this experience moving forward.

As for me, I will continue to share my story and being impeccable with my word. As the second agreement states “Don’t take things personally”. What other people think or say about you is not your business, it’s merely a projection of what’s going in inside of them.

It’s an interesting, mind blowing and confronting concept, perception is projection.