Soul Inspiration – Trust Your Gut!
Have you ever had that gut feeling that something just wasn’t right.
What I found is, If it sounds too good to be true, it generally is and you MUST listen to that feeling in your gut, it knows what your head hasn’t figured out yet.
I’ve recently been experiencing the world of online dating and all I can say is WOW😱.
It’s been an interesting experience.
I was married for nearly 23 years so I’ve never really dated anyone. You hear some love stories how people met on tinder and now they’re married, and then you hear some horror stories that you only hope you don’t experience.
I decided when I started online dating I would have a list about the type of guy I wanted to date:
- non-smoker
- no beard
- any pictures with a beer in the hand
- any pictures with another woman in the photo or it looks like it’s been cropped(and yeah it’s a thing)
- Basically any shitty picture
- Must be active
- Motivated/Ambitious
- And the list goes on…
It’s a very superficial game as you’re choosing based on looks. Maybe that’s just me, and I’m not ashamed to admit it. I’m sure there are plenty of man online doing the same thing when they see my profile.
Basically i am judging a book by its cover, and it’s goes against what I say, let go of judgements, yes and, if this is the face you’re going to wake up with every morning you want to love it not just like it, Right!
So be picky, be judgmental, there’s has to be an attraction and it starts with the look.
As I’m scrolling through these dating sites, with my finger hovering over the X button, with my standards about pictures, it really narrows the field. Some men have no idea on how to take a good picture. Seriously, if you want a woman don’t have another woman in the photo and make your photos clear.
And as i write this blog I wonder if, that maybe their posting photos that are crappy because they don’t have the confidence and self love to be fully seen, maybe they are not confident in their own skin, it’s good to wonder!
Anyway, my list is very long, And YES I have high standards and I won’t except anything less.
I respect myself too much to settle and if that means I am alone then that’s ok too because I enjoy my own company and I know and believe in my worth.
Sometimes it’s tested when you start talking with a guy and you send a couple of photos of yourself and then he says “Yeah, I’m not feeling it sorry”
If you’re not secure about who you are, if you are weighed down by the beliefs I’m not worthy of love or I’m not good enough or pretty enough, and if you don’t love and respect yourself, the online dating experience can mess with your head.
Yes and, it’s not just about online dating, it’s your life in general.
You must love yourself first before you can share that love with another.
I heard someone say the other day that their partner ‘completes’ them and that their partner is their ‘world’.
I found that interesting and I began to wonder, really, do you need another person to complete you?
If you don’t know who you are you’ll go looking for someone else to fill the void and sometimes we settle just because we don’t want to feel alone.
To know yourself is too love yourself. You become complete by loving and accepting yourself and knowing your worth. Raise your standards, if you don’t set a baseline for what you’ll accept in your life, you’ll easily slip into a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve.
A partner should compliment your world, not complete it.
I know the universe is guiding me to the right man.
The biggest lesson I’ve learnt so far from online dating is 100% listen to your gut instinct, as much as the head and heart want to the perfect match, if the gut is telling you something, bloody listen!
I was talking with a guy for about 5 days and it started out ok but through the conversations I kept getting this gut instinct ‘It’s not real’ now at first I didn’t want to listen, he was good looking and was saying all the right things. He never asked for personal details but I kept getting red flags and the feeling in my gut grew. In the end I couldn’t ignore the feelings so I ended the conversation. Don’t you love the block and delete buttons.
I believe that there’s someone out there for every one and we can have more than one soul mate.
The people that come into our life are our best teachers especially in those close intimate relationships.
You grow together and compliment each other’s strengths, abilities, purpose and life.
It’s like peas and carrots, they taste great by themselves and they taste even better together.
So, I’m not going to give up on online dating or dating in general, I’m going to quit (if you haven’t read last months blog about my take on quitting click the link here to read it https://www.tracyspears.com.au/soul-inspiration-blog/ it is really empowering to quit).
The key take-aways here are:
- Always listen to your gut, trust that initial gut instinct, don’t ignore it!
- Raise your standards of what you will and won’t accept. You deserve the best.
- Know and believe in your worth
- Know who are
- Love and respect yourself wholeheartedly and never settle for anything less than you deserve.
These take-aways can be applied not just to dating but in your own life. Put yourself in the drivers seat and take control.
Remember, put yourself first, you can’t pour from an empty cup!
Light & Love
Tracy