Soul Inspiration – Relationship Learnings

In order to love some else you first must have to love and accept yourself.
I believe loving yourself comes from having a deeper understanding of who you are, accepting all your quirkiness and intricacies, being comfortable and happy in your own skin and not allowing other people’s judgements and negativity to affect you personally. Most of the time what they say about you is not really about you.
You can’t go into a new relationship the same person you were in the old relationship. It simply won’t work and that relationship will eventually suffer and end too.
There was a moment in my life where i didn’t love myself, I believed I wasn’t worthy of having the type of relationship I wanted. My confidence took a massive hit and I started to believe I wasn’t good enough for anyone else or deserved to be loved.
I went through a period of blame, blaming myself, Covid, circumstances and my ex-husband. The moment I shifted my mindset and started to take responsibility, that’s when I started to turn my life around.
When I say responsibility, I mean, I took responsibility for my part in the relationship b breakdown, you know what they say, it takes two to tango. I owned my part, my behaviour, my actions, why words, my feelings and how I reacted and responded. I gave back what I was receiving which in turn came back around 10-fold. I knew if I wanted to have a better relationship I had to work on me first. So I made a decision to leave my marriage and start a new relationship, with myself first.
You can’t go into a new relationship the same person you were in the old relationship. It simply won’t work and that relationship will eventually suffer and end too.
There was a moment in my life where i didn’t love myself, I believed I wasn’t worthy of having the type of relationship I wanted. My confidence took a massive hit and I started to believe I wasn’t good enough for anyone else or deserved to be loved.
I went through a period of blame, blaming myself, Covid, circumstances and my ex-husband. The moment I shifted my mindset and started to take responsibility, that’s when I started to turn my life around.

When I say responsibility, I mean, I took responsibility for my part in the relationship b breakdown, you know what they say, it takes two to tango. I owned my part, my behaviour, my actions, why words, my feelings and how I reacted and responded. I gave back what I was receiving which in turn came back around 10-fold. I knew if I wanted to have a better relationship I had to work on me first. So I made a decision to leave my marriage and start a new relationship, with myself first.
After ending it I started to put me first. I started with improving my physical health. I improved my eating habits, I was more consistent with my weight training and running but most of all I shifted my mindset. I started to believe in myself, telling myself I am good enough and worthy of being loved. When you tell yourself often enough you start to believe it and I did. I lost a 13 kilos and started to feel more and more confident within myself, so much so I signed up to some online dating apps.
During the last few years of my marriage I had been doing some research and self development about relationships. I had began working on me before the marriage even ended. I knew that I couldn’t save my relationship, and at that point in my life I didn’t want too. I had developed too many negative emotions towards my ex. I knew nothing was going to change if I didn’t change me or my current situation.
What I had learnt has helped me attract a new relationship but most importantly helped me understand who I am, what I want in a relationship, and the type of person I want to be with. Every day is a new day to learn something new, there’s always something to learn if you’re open to it.
What I know is, if you want to have a loving, intimate and passionate relationship you have to be that person, it doesn’t just happen, you have to create it, so that means you have to be loving, intimate and passionate with your partner and it will be reciprocated, and if it’s not then there’s some underlying issues there or maybe he’s not the one for you.

In my ReNewHerLife Coaching Program there are 3 major outcomes my clients get from this program and they are: Super Powered Confidence, Reignited Love and Optimal Wellness.
What really drives these outcomes are my three pillars, which I created from my own personal experience and they are: Rediscover self (which I did), Revitalise Health (which I also did and continue to do) and Reawakened Love (again I did this). So everything that I share in my coaching program is from real life experiences, the knowledge acquired on my journey from courses, books and coaches.
Each pillar has 3 accelerators which ultimately deliver the three major outcomes. This program is for women who are divorced, moving through that next phase of life, who want to find love again and live a healthy, active lifestyle.
If this is you I would love to have a conversation to see if we are a good fit. Email the words
‘RENEW HER LIFE’ and I’ll be in touch: tracy@tracyspears.com.au